I went to my bishop after finding out about sexual betrayal of my husband. Bishop refused to allow me to come into the confessional interview with my husband, but I was permitted to come in after he was done. When I went in, the interview with my husband and I turned immediately into what I had done to make my husband choose other women over me. My bishop stated I needed to be a better mother and better wife. He said I was selfish for having career aspirations. He said I needed to trust my husband because what he did was not that bad. I objected and stated that I was concerned about my husband's daily verbal abuse of me, as well as several other things. My bishop said he "barks" at his wife and she doesn't like it, but to him its funny, so it is ok. I assured him that this is not what is going on in my situation. I also was horrified to hear that my bishop behaved this way towards his own wife. He ended up telling me that I was taking up too much of his time, then proceeded to actually stand up and yell at me about him having so much work to do. I felt like a burden, shamed for reaching out, and left in a state of shock and bewilderment.