Forbidden By Bishop To Date Each Other

I was age 18, my boyfriend was age 19 and preparing for his mission. For 3 years we had been the “model” Mormon couple. Never tried a drop of alcohol, never touched a drug, followed all the rules. 

Two months before his mission, the relationship became more physical and we had sex. He decided to still go and we didn’t tell anyone. A week into his mission (MTC time), I was late on my period. I wrote him a letter and called his bishop. 

He was sent home the same day. 

Before he even arrived home from the 20 minute drive from the MTC, his Stake President called me. He told me never to speak to my boyfriend again. That he was still going to be able to be “saved” and come back to the church. That if I cared about him I would not try to get him involved with me or the baby in any way. And that if I was pregnant, I needed to deal with it on my own. 

His family and church leadership forbade him from speaking to me. They changed his phone number and told me he would not be involved with the baby if I was pregnant. 

He found a way to contact me days later. Here we are, 9 years later, together and we officially left the church together years ago. When they told him he was not allowed to have contact with our possible child, and that I would have to “deal with it” alone, we both knew it was something we could be part of.