When I went public in a gay father's group about being sexually assaulted by a man in the group (Mormon and Ex Mormon men), my post was immediately deleted.
I never named the perpetrator. The administrator of the group then told me that this man had dozens of victims "up and down the Wasatch Front."
Why was he allowed in the group?
Because he was married to a MAN!
No vetting process at all.
When I was sent home after being raped on my mission nearly 20 years ago by my Chilean mission companion...the church DID NOTHING! No offer to pay for counseling or anything.
I was suddenly the perpetrator. It is so, so wrong!
But I still see the shaming effects of the culture. For example, my cousin, who has a lesbian daughter, who is married and has a baby, unfriended me, and her own daughter! This was because I spoke publicly about my sexual assault and rape on my mission.
If someone is a devout member, they should not be afraid to speak about these issues that many have faced. There is a sense that speaking out makes the church look bad and they want to save their image. The image means nothing if there is rot underneath.
I speak to my own experience.