In a previous MSA ward my friend was dating a guy who was gaslighting her and trying to make her go farther than she was willing. She went to the bishop to try and let him know what was going on. But the bishop was like "Oh no he grew up in this stake he isn’t such a bad guy." For my part, I was nice to him only while he was dating her and once they broke up and I found out about what happened I drew a boundary line to let him know he should stay away from me.
The former boyfriend decided that because I wouldn’t be friends with him that I had violated his rights and went on a campaign to let people in the ward know I was a terrible person. I went around for almost a year with this really abusive behavior. I even went to the bishop to let him know I was being bullied. The bishop, again, went on with the excuse the guy grew up in the ward and he couldn’t possibly be a bad person. Plus he was getting married soon so it wasn’t that big a deal. Then he said "Well people complained about you being a bully."
I was absolutely stunned that the bishop would do this. I said "Well, bishop I putting the ball in your court, if I am a bully then let those people confront me and I will apologize. It is better that I be humbled and apologize then let bad energy continue on in the ward." The bishop was stunned and was like why don’t you confront that guy. Again, I was shocked that he would suggest that after I told him how he is someone who gaslights people and the abusive behavior he was exhibiting toward me. I let the bishop know the only way I would have that meeting is in front of the bishop. The bishop said that he didn’t see the situation as a real problem and that I should fix it. I moved from the ward and I have forgiven the bishop, but the way the bishop treated bullying and consent was shocking as he is the father of a daughter in the ward.