My brother molested me as a child. He went on a mission, supposedly confessed his sins to his leaders, and claims he is a sex addict. He conveniently doesn't remember molesting my sister or I, believes us that it happens, but feels confident that he will never do it again. He has confessed more recently what he has done to his bishop but no leader has reached out to me, as the survivor, to see if I am doing okay or how they can support me.
My daughter was sexually abused by her uncle, an LDS youth. He was barred from taking the sacrament for a time but it is my understanding that he is now a member in full standing, passing the sacrament weekly and will likely go on a mission soon. He has not apologized to my daughter, no leader has reached out to see how they can support her or our family, and we have been counseled by mormon family members to "forgive." We reported this to the police but the judicial system also largely failed us by settling to an attempted count of sexual misconduct when what actually occurred was three counts of sexual misconduct with a minor, They were also able to convince the system to allow his mandatory counseling to be with an LDS therapist.
As a youth I was asked extremely probing an inappropriate questions by bishops, one of whom was excommunicated for infidelity.
When I confessed to sexual activity with my boyfriend my senior year of high school, my bishop cried, disfellowshipped me, refused to give me my young women medallion that I hard worked 6 years for, and told me that I cheated on my future husband and that I needed to feel more bad than I did for what I had done. The same bishop gave a lesson with the chewed gum analogy.